Five gifts from your negative Core belief

One of the reasons why it's very important to go back and find out where your untrue belief came from, is because that's the only way that you going to understand why something so completely untrue could have become so firmly embedded as an "unquestioned truth".
The second reason has to do with the process as you balance your negative core belief. You can't get rid of that belief. It is hardwired into your brain cells and in fact trying to get rid of it only locks it in even more firmly. But you can balance it.

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However, before you can balance it with a matching positive believe you do have to do something else first and that is to reassure the negative belief that it is not going to be subtly done away with by the positive belief. (Negative beliefs are a living part of you and yes they talk to you regularly and yes they too are worried about being sacked or made redundant. They must be reassured that this is not going to happen and in fact cannot happen to the.

Honouring the Gifts
That's an important part of the process I describe in book C as "honouring" the gifts that the negative core belief gave you, in your childhood.

I'll summarise these here:
1. Helping you fit in with your family and make sense of what was happening to you as a child as described in the Introduction pages is gift one

2. The second gift is helping you develop your "Compensating Skills" as I explain in Book B and Book C. These skills have been a tremendous benefit to you, but as long as they are only used to compensate the negative core belief you won't realise their full worth. You will though, once you balanced positive and negative beliefs. But in the meantime they are still a tremendous gift and it was your negative core belief that caused you to develop them.
If you hadn't had that particular negative core belief you would either not have developed those skills at all all not develop them as well as you have.

3. The third gift is empathy the ability to know what it's like when you were someone else who has a similar negative core belief. That's a gift, and you would never have been able to use it to help others if it hadn't been for your own negative core belief.

4. The fourth gift is what I call adult humility. That is the ability to recognize that sometimes on certain occasions you and I simply are just "not good enough" and that that's okay. It's the human condition and nothing to worry about. Adult humility is a gift but it can only be experienced by grown-ups who have balanced on their negative core belief.

5. The final gift is the gift of balance. Let's take my own negative core belief that I have no value. I balanced it with a belief in my own value, in a rather special way I say to myself "The more I give my gifts to others, the more valuable I really am".
Let's suppose for example that my positive belief had became over-developed. I would be out of balance and I would soon become a pain in the butt for people around me (who would then stop valuing me). It's the old negative core belief that allows me to maintain a nice flexible balance between my adult humility and my sense of having true value, whether another other people recognize it on a particular occasion. That's the fifth gift

What is a negative Core belief?

Why it is not easy to recognise your Core beliefs

Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list

Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns

Fable - The case of the stolen self-esteem

Where did they come from?

Where did they come from?

The self-fulfilling prophecy trap

Why you react when a core belief is triggered
More about core beliefs - Resonance

Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief

Five Gifts from Your Old negative core belief

Core belief Counselling in Queensland

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