Typical negative core beliefs

Although we may "believe" them (and yet be unaware of them) the good news is that today they are largely false beliefs.

The overall pattern
Everyone seems to have different unbalanced or negative beliefs of their own. Most of these beliefs however are connected in a broad way with a sense of lost self worth:

General negative core beliefs or feelings about myself:

not good enough (incompetent)
not good enough (unlovable)
unwanted, different
defective, imperfect, bad
powerless, one-below
in danger, not safe
don’t know, wrong

Life Issue related to core belief

success
love
belonging
self worth
control
security
reality, reason

Within these broad belief patterns, however, are hundreds of different, personal variations and it is when you identifying yours things start to be come much clearer about many of the major issues in your life. (See examples below)
NOTE: A core belief is always an "I" statement as in "I am unlovable" A belief "Nobody loves me" is called a 'supporting belief', a prediction or forecast about what others will do or have done. But if it were not for the core belief we may well have been able to accept love and be loved. The untrue core belief is what helped make other people's reactions occur and so give the core belief the 'appearance' of being true. (A self fulfilling prophecy.)

The Core Belief Balancing Workbook which I am happy to send you by e-mail, (total cost less than $5) includes a set of step by step worksheets that have been thoroughly "road tested" by over 1200 clients. Completing these worksheets in your own time and in private will enable you to identify your own particular core beliefs. As you work through the pages you will develop a much greater awareness of your core beliefs and how you are triggered. You also become aware of the way your automatic protectors (your inner selves) react to triggers and as a result how they control your life and play havoc with your relationships.

Here are just some of the typical negative core beliefs I have helped clients to balance. At the foot of this page are notes about a few specially interesting ones.

Not good enough (incompetent)

I am no good

I can’t get it right

I can’t make it work (klutz)

I can’t fix it

I am not good enough

I am unsuccessful

I’m not valuable

I am inferior

I am nothing

I am worthless

I am invisible

I am insignificant

Not good enough (unlovable)

I am not lovable

I am unacceptable

I am plain and dull

I am not special

I don’t matter

I am unworthy

I am not interesting enough

Don’t know, wrong

I don’t know

I get it wrong

I am always wrong

I can’t understand

I’m not understood

I am in the wrong place

I am no good

I am a mistake

In danger or not safe

I’m not safe

I am afraid

I am uncertain

I am vulnerable

I am helpless

Unwanted, different

I don’t belong

I am unwanted

I am alone

I am unwelcome

I don’t fit in anywhere

I don’t exist

I’m nothing

I should not be here at all

I’m not anybody

I am left out

I am unsuitable

I am uninteresting

I am unimportant

I don’t matter

Defective, imperfect, bad

It’s my fault

I am guilty

I am bad

I am not whole

I am imperfect

I am unattractive

I am flawed

I am stupid

I am awkward

I am slow

I can’t be me

I’m not true

I’m dirty

I am ugly

I am fat

I’m shameful

I am unclean

I am useless

I am crazy

I have a mental problem

I am out of control

I can’t make myself clear

I am mistaken

I am unbalanced

I will fail

I am a failure

I don’t deserve to be loved

I don’t deserve to be cared for

I don’t deserve anything

There’s something wrong with me

Powerless, one-below

I can’t do it

I can’t

I am a victim

I am weak

I am powerless

I am a failure

I am ineffective

I don’t have any choice

I am less than

I am helpless

I finish last

I am always number two

I am always one-below

I can’t stand up for myself

I am inferior

I am a loser

I am inadequate

I can’t say ‘no’

Other examples of negative core beliefs:

I am a klutz (awkward)
This is one of my own negative core beliefs. I became aware of its the first time when I was taking part in an amazing week's intensive, training in voice dialogue with Dr Hal Stone and Dr Sidra Stone at Mendocino in California in 1974. I had heard the word "klutz" before but never realised its full significance until this time. I now recognize that I definitely have within me an "inner klutz". As I got to know the core belief better I rephrased it as "I can't fix anything."

I am a schmuk (unsophisticated) - not one of my beliefs but in my mind it seems to be associated with the previous belief.

I have nothing to offer - a client gave me permission to include this one because it was so interesting. Often when I dialogue with a negative core belief it has quite a lot to say (even if it's negative) . This one was incredibly quiet, reinforcing the belief itself. It had nothing to offer.

I can't get anything right. Everything I try to do goes wrong - the problem here was that every time we tried to do the negative core belief balancing process it "went wrong". It took a couple of sessions but the client succeeded in the end. Today it's amazing how many things are going right in that person's life, for the first time. Balancing in this case created a whole new outlook and a new start in life where previously things had consistently been going downhill.

If you would like me to add your own the individual negative core belief here I would be delighted. Just send me an e-mail with what you know or understand about it. nutting@growingaware.com

But please remember:

1. If it's OK to publish details of your negative core belief on this site please include your permission for this in your e-mail. (Example: This confirms my permission for the following information to be published on the Growing Awareness Series website/s"

2. Even when you do this, it is better not to include your full name in any material that will be published on the Internet. But it's great to include just your first name or a code name. One thing that is important is your general location. Examples: "Molly from Sydney NSW"; "Happy Now - Ontario Canada" or "Davy C, Alamo TX"

For a full explanation of Negative Core beliefs see other pages: Your Core Beliefs Explained

How and why you react when a core belief is triggered

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