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Stand Firm, Grow or Fly Free with Balanced Negative and Positive Core Beliefs
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What is a negative Core belief? | Why it is not easy to recognise your Core beliefs | Examples of negative core beliefs | Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns | Fable - The case of the stolen self-esteem | Where did they come from? | The self-fulfilling prophecy trap | Why you react when a core belief is triggered | Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief | More about core beliefs - Resonance | Understanding different kinds of belief | Make a list of the things that Trigger You? | Identify your own Core Beliefs | Core Belief work sheet 4a | Five Gifts from Your Old negative core belief | Core belief Counselling in Queensland | Core Belief Story and Worksheets sent by e-mail | Introduction to Core Belief Balancing Offer |
Identifying and recognising your own core beliefs and belief patterns
At this point, you may not even know if you have core belief problems or patterns, but something brought you to this web site. For a start does this sound a bit like you?
1. Introduction - What is a negative Core belief? and
Why it is not easy to recognise your Core beliefs (same page)
Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list?
This website explains where core beliefs come from and how a simple process - core belief balancing will help you avoid those automatic or triggered over reactions.
2. Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns
One of the most difficult problems I face is when I over-react, those times when I find myself triggered into an automatic response that ends up causing the problems. Afterwards I ask myself "Why did I over-react like that?" and usually "I wish I hadn't over-reacted but I couldn't stop myself!" Or I blame the other person for "making me" react the way I did and I lose another friend.
If this sounds at all familiar then it's going to be well worthwhile reading on....
Over-reacting is one of the more obvious signs that tells you that you may have got yourself automatically 'hot-wired' to one of your hidden core beliefs. You have been triggered. Over-reactions like this are closely linked to core beliefs and are described as the 'F' reactions.
You are probably already familiar with two of the most common reaction patterns "Fighting" and "Fleeing". But almost as common are many other 'F' reactions like "Staying but Folding" or "Forget the Whole Thing" or Freezing.
Your F reaction patterns are the easiest part of the whole process to look at, so they are the best place to start work.
Ready? Go to Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns
3. Getting out of the old reaction patterns
You can't change the belief that causes the over-reaction but you can change the reaction patterns themselves. Your triggered F reaction is the one part of the whole process that you can observe clearly particularly if it's happening over and over again.
At this point there are a couple of warnings about how not to go about it. It's no good trying to "change" beliefs or or get rid of them totally. I will explain as I go why that cannot happen, and why there is a far better way that works. First let's see if I can explain a bit about what core beliefs are, where they come from, what they do. and why they do it.
Fable - The case of the stolen self-esteem
Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list?
4. Getting to know Your Core Beliefs
Where did they come from? Why they came into your life? Strange as it may seem as soon as you begin appreciating the way they helped you as a child they begin to lose some of their intensity.
The self-fulfilling prophecy trap
At this point you can start to understand what is underneath your individual reaction patterns.
Why you react when a core belief is triggered
More about core beliefs - Resonance
Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief
What you can do instead - practical steps for balancing negative and positive beliefs
The Trouble With Unbalanced Beliefs (coming soon)
5. What can I do about all this?
Become aware of what is happening inside you, and how much of this is being driven by your negative core beliefs.
Identify your own core beliefs
Understanding different kinds of belief
Increase your self-awareness (and figure out what's holding you back)
Make a list of the things that Trigger You?
6. Core Belief Balancing
Identify your own Core Beliefs using do-it-yourself worksheets at home.
Save a fortune on therapist's fees and do a better job yourself.
Example: Core Belief work sheet 4a
The worksheets will help you to understand:
* Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief
* What you can do instead - balance the negative and positive beliefs
Five Gifts from Your Old negative core belief Honouring the ways the old belief helped in your childhood.
Core belief Counselling in Queensland
7. More pages coming soon
Building better relationships (and develop real trust and intimacy) (coming soon)
Find out who you really are, what you want, and how to achieve it (coming soon)
Make positive changes in your life, that will really make a difference (coming soon)
Be empowered to make the changes you want, at your own pace (coming soon)
8. "Is it really safe for me to change? Am I ready?"
Please read this page before you go too far with making changes -
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great , but only if you feel ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you can make your changes with confidence.
Why are you here?
9. More special free to copy pages
What you can do about all this (coming soon)
A Step by step summary of what you can do (coming soon)
10. Negative Core Beliefs and your Inner child -If you are troubled by feelings of being blocked or clamped or repetitive self-defeating patterns in your life you may be interested in our inner child website
Core belief and Growing Awareness Groups - Australia
1. Near North Coast (Nambour Yandina Noosa Maroochydore Buderim Maleny) Queensland Inner Child and Growing Awareness Training - e-mail or phone 07 3261 2882 or Mobile 0414 57 00 16 for details and map
2. Brisbane - Bald Hills, Aspley Chermside, Strathpine, Sandgate Inner child and Growing Awareness Training - e-mail or phone 07 3261 2882 or Mobile 0414 57 00 16 for details and map Third Tuesday of each month. 7:15 pm to 10pm
Gold Coast Nerang Southport Burleigh, Miami, Third Thursday of the month 7:15 pm to 10 om
4.Sydney - Northern Inner Sydney suburbs - e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org or phone 07 3261 2882 for details
5. Perth, Cairns, Adelaide - click here for details Core Belief 2012 Workshops or Ph07 3261 2882
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The whole process of identifying your own negative core beliefs and then balancing them is a very individual matter. There are no general rules, no standard step by step approach. If there was I would print it here.
To achieve success also requires some time and thought on your part. I have found it works best for people who are serious about this to do the work step-by-step in their own time.
If you would you like to :
1. Discover your own hidden troublemakers and identify your own negative core beliefs
2. Find out how to balance your negative beliefs with positive ones. It's easy once you know why you need to balance them (and why you must not try to get rid of them altogether)
3. Avoid getting triggered again as you have in the past
To order and for more information on the Introduction to Core Belief Balancing and content of the workbooks (over 120 pages in total) go to Core Belief Workbooks by e-mail
Links to the following pages on this website (copy for free) about other Growing Awareness issues
Making Relationships Work an updated series of pages and links from older Growing Awareness websites
Bottom line or Life issues
Boundaries are not “Rules” or “Walls” -
Rules for the School of Life
A fable about the Characters in your inner Village and How Self-awareness Grows
If you would like to see brief summaries of the above pages above go to Other pages of interest - summary
On this site I have also included many more pages that relate to self-awareness work in a broader way. These are updated pages from my older websites. (copy for free)
Four Levels of Self-awareness and Self-empowerment
The characters on your "inner bus"
The following pages are perhaps of more interest to psychotherapists and counsellors
More about our alternative approach
Alternate terms used in self-awareness work
Bibliography - self awareness and associated readings
Opposite characters (notes
Complex characters in your Inner village and core beliefs
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I gratefully acknowledge the valuable help and understanding I received while writing about Belief Systems, firstly from Nikki Nemerouf and Jeffrey Young and also from John Falcon and Sergei Gorski for their guidance and valuable additions to my understanding. I emphasise that the following pages do not follow precisely the core belief, core schema or core profile models as taught by any one of these outstanding teachers. However, many of the ideas on this website are clearly based on their original work and the training I did with them.
From that point I have introduced some alternate concepts, in particular the connection between core belief work and the psychology of the inner selves (voice dialogue) as taught by Dr. Hal and Dr. Sidra Stone. I have found that dialoguing with the beliefs themselves as "characters" inside us is one of the most useful skills (often the critical factor) in clarifying, and balancing old core beliefs.
I thank Earl Cass and Anthony Bligh (Nutting) for their support and expert suggestions and my thanks to my ex-wife and friend Rozz Nutting for permitting me to include extracts from her own book on the core belief process.
With appreciation - John Nutting
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